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10th-Jul-2009 07:42 pm
Well, concerning my separation, things are, well, hopeful, I think.

My husband's done a complete turn around.

We were talking today (he's been calling me like crazy when he wouldn't even talk to me while we were living under the same roof) and he wants me to take him back.

Apparently he's been spending the week + day we've been separated drunk and miserable. 

I told him I was NOT moving back in with him, at least not yet, and that he had to start proving that he respects me, and that he could begin by respecting my need for space.

He agreed to all of my terms, which includes going to a marriage counselor, something he's always refused to do in the past.

I'm being hopeful but wary.

Thank you all for always being so supportive.

Your words really helped me.
11th-Jul-2009 01:08 am (UTC)
good for you . that's a really good idea you told him. here if you need to talk ok.
11th-Jul-2009 01:13 am (UTC)
Thank very much, I'm being wary but hopeful, especially since if he agreed to counseling it must mean SOMETHING (he always used to say I prefer divorcing you than going to counseling......)
11th-Jul-2009 01:24 am (UTC)
Agree with Angelbsb. Well done and stick to your guns!! Remember, I'm only an email or IM away :) /huggs /comfort /support!!
11th-Jul-2009 01:27 am (UTC)
*hugs back* thanks! Your support means a lot!
11th-Jul-2009 01:27 am (UTC)
Good for you, hope that everything gets better with time :-)
11th-Jul-2009 01:31 am (UTC)
Me too, I'm taking this slow, if we rush things will just go bad again so we're taking it one day at a time.
11th-Jul-2009 02:02 am (UTC)
*hugs and smishes*
11th-Jul-2009 10:56 pm (UTC)
ooooh! I love being smished! lol
11th-Jul-2009 11:05 pm (UTC)
LOL :)
11th-Jul-2009 02:06 am (UTC)
hopefully it turns out ok for you two. at least he's willing to work on it and sometimes that's the first step to things getting better.
good luck
11th-Jul-2009 10:57 pm (UTC)
Yeah, the fist step is always the hardest so I'm grateful for his being willing to do so.
11th-Jul-2009 03:16 am (UTC)
I'm so happy to hear that things are looking hopefully. I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself and sticking to your demands. I really hope that everything works out the way you want it to. I know that we are only on-line friends but I'm totally here if you need me *hugs*
11th-Jul-2009 10:58 pm (UTC)
I consider all my friends friends, you're my friend, not my online friend. And a dear one as well!
11th-Jul-2009 04:59 am (UTC)
I'm happy for you that things a looking up. Good for you for sticking to your guns. Sometimes people need to swift kick in the ass to realize that they had a good thing, and don't see what they have til it's gone. Hugs for you! :-)
11th-Jul-2009 11:02 pm (UTC)
hahaha! Thank you, I am proud of myself for standing up for myself for the first time too, and its making D respect me as well, for the first time in a long time. So this separation is so far working out, hopefully we'll be able to rebuild our relationship........
11th-Jul-2009 02:27 pm (UTC)
Good job, you've gotta keep strong. I'm proud that you stood up for what you thought was the right thing to do. I hope that things work out for you, that everything gets cleaned up cleanly.


You've always got us, I'll never divorce you ;)
11th-Jul-2009 11:03 pm (UTC)
Aw, that has go to be the sweetest thing I ever heard! Thank you!
11th-Jul-2009 06:52 pm (UTC)
*hugs you tight*
I hope everything will go well.
I'm happy if it is still hope for you and your husband to be back together.
11th-Jul-2009 11:05 pm (UTC)
It would be great if we did get back, but I'm readying myself emotionally in case it doesn't work out. THanks for the tight hug, needed it!
11th-Jul-2009 11:20 pm (UTC)
You have to try to do the best thing for you cause you deserve to have someone that won't make you feel bad but happy.
11th-Jul-2009 07:53 pm (UTC)
11th-Jul-2009 11:06 pm (UTC)
Thank you
12th-Jul-2009 03:14 am (UTC)
Hey hon, I just wanted to add my support. The same thing happened to my brother and his partner (my brother was the one who left). They decided after a few months of angst to give it another go and now they have a daughter as well as their older son. There can be a lot of hurt and it sounds like the both of you have a lot of talking to do. Give it time - don't let him rush you into doing something you don't want to do like taking him back before you're ready. Just know that we are all here for you, and we do care. All the best hon. *hugs*
12th-Jul-2009 03:48 am (UTC)
Thank you so much for that, it's so encouraging to hear a similar story where there's a happy ending. Sadly we'd been planning on trying for our first child before this happened, and so we will take it slow (whether he likes it or not) for the sake of any future children we might have if we do decide to get back together. Once again, thanks for the encouragement.
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